Bear Blog Entry — The Button of Selective Anime
🔗 Speed-Dating Show Sparks Debate on Fetishization of Asian Men – NextShark
Somewhere between irony and reality, it happened:
A big girl dressed as Mitsuri Kanroji, the Love Hashira from Demon Slayer, walked into a blind speed-dating arena wearing full braids, full confidence, and not a single ounce of shame.
She was anime-coded and proud of it. Pink-green hair, school uniform-style getup, and the kind of unapologetic presence that said, "I like what I like. Try me."
And sitting across from her? An Asian guy.
Blindfolds on. Hearts theoretically open.
She lit up the room with enthusiasm:
"I'm really into anime." "I'm really into Asian men."
Then came the hug request. He obliged. A bit of a laugh. Seemed like a match. And then—
He pressed the button.
Just like that.
No harsh words. No drama. Just a clean break.
And you could feel the air go out of the fantasy bubble she brought in with her.
It wasn't cruelty. It was indifference.
She came dressed as a dream girl for someone. Just… not for him.
The internet calls it fetishization. Some say she got what she deserved for being too on the nose. But you know what?
At least she was honest.
She showed up as herself—flaws, wig glue, braids and all. She owned her taste, her vibe, and yeah, her attraction. And that makes her more real than half the people on that stage pretending not to care while secretly swiping left on anyone without a six-figure car.
His rejection? It wasn’t personal. It was calibrated.
But that doesn’t mean it didn’t hurt.
Because that’s what people don’t get about confidence—it’s not armor. It’s a risk.
Mitsuri Girl showed up in full color. She just got turned down by grayscale.
Why Were They Scared of the Cosplay?
It’s not just the outfit—it’s the disruption. Cosplay, especially in a romantic setting, throws people off because:
- It breaks the script. Most people hide their weird. She led with it.
- It triggers stereotypes. Asian men especially have been reduced to tropes. When someone leads with "I'm into anime and Asian men," the line between sincere and fetish gets razor-thin.
- Confidence + Niche = Threat. She didn’t whisper her vibe. She broadcasted it. Most aren’t ready to match that energy.
- Big + Bold = Double Shock. Society still struggles to process big-bodied women who own their space. Add cosplay? System overload.
- The Button is a fear-based format. You’ve got seconds to decide. Anything unfamiliar becomes a threat, not an opportunity.
Bottom line? She didn’t flinch. They did.
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